There are sincere, heartfelt conversations and there are trivial ones. One morning you may be discussing the big football game with friends. Later that day, you may be explaining to someone you love that you never meant to hurt them. Some conversations we could do without, other conversations we desperately need to have.

It’s perfectly ok to have both kinds of conversations. Nothing is wrong with either.

We have all also been in a conversation where one person has definite but subtle motive. A car salesman has a motive to sell you a car. A politician has a motive to get your vote. Children many times have motives to get what they want from a parent. If the motive is understood then it’s probably ok.

What can be dangerous is when motives aren’t identified. That can lead to manipulation.

Prayer in its most simple form is a conversation, but let’s be careful to let God set the conversation. He is not there for us to try to mold into our image. We are the clay, He is the potter.

It’s not specifics of circumstances or the terminology in a prayer that matter most.

The motive behind the prayer is much more important.

One sure sign of spiritual growth is the ability to question your own motives.

When praying, make sure you are communicating to God from your heart. But be ready because your heart may reveal things that you didn’t know were there.

Here are some ways to help you be aware of your own motives:

*When asking God to change someone’s heart, ask Him if yours need to change as well.

*When asking God for help in dealing with an unreasonable person, ask Him to help you be reasonable yourself.

*When asking God to help someone, ask Him to show you how you can help them.

*When asking God for direction, be ready to take the next clear step.

*When asking God for forgiveness, make sure you are giving it also.

Written by Tom Wise © Finding Wonder 2013